Pictures from the side are awkward.
Anyway, this was hair trial #2 (not the actual thing – I’m not to my wedding posts yet), this one I was happy with. But this wasn’t my only trial. The first one – yuck.
The first hair trial was set up more through a family connection with they stylist and while she was super sweet it just didn’t give me the most confident feeling walking out of the salon. That, and family connections tend to feel more like they’re cemented in the “have to” ideology than “the choice is yours” one. You can already see my dilemma.
In the first trial, like everything else wedding, I carried giganto into the salon, handed over my pièce de résistance – the one plucked from millions of inspiration over two years – and handed it to the stylist-lady. Two stipulations were also handed over: no tight curls and no engulfing me in a cloud of toxic fumes. Aka hairspray – a little is okay, a lot is not. I like my hair to fall naturally.
First thing done, tight ass curls, sprayed stiff. #thingsthatmakeyougohmm (Twitter has infiltrated my vocabulary).
I guess my face said it all because she asked if “it’s what I wanted” – not exactly lady. not.ex.actly.
We took it down and tried again but by that time the hair was sticky, lifeless and one shot short of a . . . I don’t know, whatever something is that you’re supposed to spray a lot. My fault for not thinking this sentence through before I started writing it.
Anyway, with me you can tell if I like something, if you aren’t sure, then I probably don’t. I’m not one to fake emotions and I’m pretty sure my expressions and enthusiasm went limp along with my hair. With this trial out of the way I really didn’t know what to do. I knew I wasn’t happy but getting back to Yakima for another trial or meeting was difficult. Really though, the option was to go with something I didn’t trust or make the 2.5 hour trip.
Two-and-half hours was worth it.
I mulled over this decision too long, to say the least. I was afraid of cutting ties for my family member’s sake but finally realized, I had no relationship with this stylist. I needed to put me first in this situation. While it was a nice gesture and all, I moved on with tact. That’s all anyone can ask for as far as I’m concerned.
The next stop was Onyx Salon. When I called, I told them what I wanted and asked who they would recommend. I lucked out with Tonna (sp?). She talked me through the trial, made sure step-by-step if I was okay with it and made me feel comfortable giving honest feedback. I don’t like confrontation and tend keep what’s bothering me beneath the surface, but at this point it was affecting me – this was my wedding I didn’t want to be upset with my hair the day of. Brides – if you’re like I am, your wedding is a time when you do need to step forward and be honest with what you want/need or you may very well end up focusing on one little detail that made you unhappy instead of looking at the big picture on your wedding day. You can disagree politely so – just my advice – don’t let the quandary of it all silence you.
Anyway, in a nut shell, trial #2 was great. I was comfortable and the money was well spent. And those pictures above, they’re not even close to what my hair actually looked like on the big day. It was better. Way better.
I promise the pics will be up soon . . . as soon as I can get through all the events and decisions leading up to the wedding.
Keeping you hooked,
DISCLAIMER: My point in this post is that sometimes styles are different – between hairdresser and stylee. One is not right, nor wrong, just different. As a bride, you should know what you want and speak out about it. No one can read your mind. While hair trial #1 may not have been exactly what I was looking for I never intended to offend anyone’s work and if it were up to me to do my own hair it would’ve probably looked like something that just rolled out of bed. Hair trials are trials – you need to use your best judgement on them because it’s not going to be perfect, it’s not going to be exactly what you want. Trials, practice, they help you figure it out, they help you decide if you mesh with a person, a style, an idea. That’s all. The trial, it’s just like dating, it’s an important to getting you to what you’re looking for. And that’s all.