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{dressing the groom}

The FI and his mom went out to do a little wedding shopping last night and came back with a beautiful blue shirt and a couple options for ties – they really did a great job, matching the colors perfectly and getting a feel for the feel of the wedding. 

However, come to find out, their trip wasn’t as easy as it sounded in those last two sentences.

Most wedding sites cater to the trendy, sophisticated groom – you know – the guys in tuxes with cummerbunds? Our wedding isn’t exactly that fancy.  We’re more casual – plus, I don’t want my groom melting under the four layers of “tux” in the Yakima heat.  Figuring out a casual get up wasn’t so easy for us, so I’m providing all of you – you’s with the casual, chic wedding too – a few pieces of groom inspiration.






What we decided on – the groom will wear a suit and the groomsmen will wear coordinating ties and shirts, minus the suit jacket. I’ve seen plenty photos of this combo – it really does look fine, it cuts down on the cost for your buddies AND it sets the groom apart from the rest of his line up.

HOWEVER – there is such a thing as too casual. If you go the khaki route, try linen khaki first. Oh – and no jeans – okay?

not workin’ for me


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one more for the boy – groom resources


I came across this article from the New York Times and thought you all would be interested in reading it. The article is about how groom’s are getting more involved in the wedding planning process these days.  They are contributing more to the event and wanting to make it a special occasion for their guests {that’s my guy!}.  I have also come to find out however, that no matter what, he does not care about the particular font on the invites, the exact  names and colors of the flowers, or the driveyouinsane centerpiece arrangements. 

Here are some additional online resources a la Wedding Paper Divas if you need:

  • GroomGroove offers everything a guy needs to play his part. Find tips for making speeches, hosting a rocking reception and even a checklist of the groom’s duties.
  • Looking for gifts tailored to grooms, with a little advice thrown in for good measure? The Man Registry is the site for you. They have everything from personalized beer steins to tips for writing vows that will leave her teary-eyed.
  • Is all of this a little much for you? Find a place to read about a groom who is even more skeptical than you at The Grumpy Groom. It might even inspire you to start your own blog!
  • Happy reading ladies – share it with your hubby-to-be 🙂

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    let him eat cake!

    Groom’s cakes for some yummy inspiration!

    Wedding Cakes:  Start Your Engines Toasted-almond cake filled with chai truffle, covered

    start your engines

    Wedding Cakes:  Sail Away Chocolate cake filled with strawberry jam and chocolate ganache,

    sail awayWedding Cakes:  Show Your Hand Pineapple cake filled with rum-flavored Swiss meringue

    show your hand

    1-2-3 strikes

    Mario circa 1985


    too much fun – too much sweetness

    wait, there are no such things!



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    Victory #6 Groom’s Gift

    {Don’t look Kyle :)}


    …remember, I said he was good with surprises so I have complete and utter faith in my honey…


    Anyway . . . Groom’s gift . . . check!


    He looooves to wear watches when he dresses up and surprisingly, my blue eyed babe {who always wears blue} does not have a blue watch! I found this little trinket at Kay Jewelers (on sale ;)) back in October, can’t wait to see him wear it on our wedding day!

    I am also getting my guy a few fun honeymoon items to take with him on the trip (i.e. swim trunks, a magazine, outfit for the sun, etc.) that I’ll surprise him with in our hotel room . . . including this gadget:


    As I’ve mentioned, we LOVE taking pictures.  The XShot 2.0 allows you to secure your camera onto the end and extend it out in order to take pictures of yourselves . . . AND get the background in the picture too {no more close up pictures of your eyeballs hehe}. LOVE IT!

    Oh yeah, also got  this little guy for the wedding day too:


    This is a surprise for the wedding day too, I’m customizing a “him” and “her” one 🙂

    Need gift ideas for your groom, ladies?  Check these links out!

    Top 10 Gift Ideas for Grooms

    Bride to Groom Gift Ideas

    Gift Ideas for the Groom

    Hope these help generate some thoughts!



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    Let’s Hear it for the Boy


    Here is the groom information {part deux) that I gathered from the wonderful world of The ManRegistry!

    The following article {from MR} is written by Marie O’Mara of Honeymoons.com and talks about the grooms responsibilities during the planning process.  Really interesting, a different take on groom’s duties and a very entertaining read altogether, check it out!

    Groom’s wedding planning duties have evolved from what we traditionally remember them to be.

    Purchase engagement ring. Check.
    Propose. Check.
    Pick groomsmen. Check.
    Purchase wedding rings.  Check.
    Pick out tux and get groomsman gifts. Check.
    Plan Rehearsal Dinner. Check.
    Plan & book the Honeymoon. Check.


    Traditionally the groom’s responsibility includes a short and easy list that covers the basics, and for the groom, that is where the “Wedding Planning” responsibilities once ended!  However, as many of you are already finding out, that isn’t the end. We have listed a few things to consider and keep in mind to make your PRE WEDDING life go a bit easier. This list may not apply to everyone, but should keep any groom out of the doghouse and more importantly, keep your fiance thrilled for even offering! 

    From here on out in the wedding planning process you should know that:  

    1)  You are happy to be involved in the planning & choosing vendors.

    2)  You are expected to go with your fiancée to register, and yes this is a big deal.

    3)  You need to make sure someone is planning her bridal shower.  DO NOT ASSUME. (You don’t need to be involved, but keep an open ear to make sure someone has taken the lead and planning is underway.)

    4)  You are expected to get the names & addresses of the guests on your list. (Facebook, email & phone numbers do not count.)

    5)  YOUR mother is not in charge of planning the wedding!

    6)  You’re already thinking of what songs will make a great first dance.

    7)  You’re not inviting your ex girlfriend to the wedding, and it is not appropriate to even ask. (Ok, Mr. Geller?)

    8)  You want to be involved, or at least offer, to stuff the invitation envelopes!

    9)  You have researched plenty of honeymoon locations and have done all the homework before picking the place!

    10)  You understand how stressed your fiancé is with planning the wedding. She won’t appreciate being nicknamed Bridezilla. It’s funny, but it’s also hurtful.

    11)  Sex on the wedding night is most likely not going to happen, and that this isn’t a “preview” to your sex life for the rest of your life.

    Love it! Guys, this post is really meant to help you help her by getting involved and knowing when, how and where to do just that.  This isn’t an event you’ll want surprises to pop up at because the day represents both of you.  I also recommend checking out the Groom’s Guide to Thank You’s {yep, you gotta to them too ;)} as well as Budgeting the Groom’s Side of the Wedding . . . as a girl, I know how easy it is to get caught up in the manicures, makeup and bubbly for the ladies, but brides can certainly benefit from this article as well! Don’t worry though guys, there are plenty of fun posts to weed through too, such as: A Groom’s Guide to Surviving a Bridal Expo; a discussion on Jim and Pam’s Wedding {a la The Office}; and a ton of cool-looking groom’s cakes to drool over!

    Still a little lost on what your role should be in the planning grooms? Brides — need help directing him on what to do? The ManRegistry also hosts a Groom 101 section that “includes all of the articles, checklists, and tips that you {the groom} will need to get ready for the big day.” This is a great “short and to the point” area for the guys who want to make a difference but aren’t into all the pretty flowers and don’t obsess over centerpieces day-in and day-out.  Really, we do understand :).

    Here is a small preview of the categories you can find over at Groom 101: wedding tips for grooms and wedding advice for grooms, bachelor party games, who to invite to the bachelor party, groomsmen duties, usher duties, wedding pranks, best man doesn’t like the bride, man showers.  Some of the categories are very sweet and romantic while others are, well definitely geared towards the male species (wedding pranks…really? :)).   


    Hope you enjoy {and bookmark} this wonderful find!



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    Money Matters


    I found this wonderful new site called The ManRegistry which — you guessed it — caters to the groom’s side {perspective} of the wedding . . . what they should expect, bachelor party etiquette, best man speeches + other areas of the honeymoon I won’t mention here ;).  Initially I ventured to this site to read up on the “Money + Marriage” articles but ended up finding SO MUCH useful information that I’m going to split that little journey up into two posts:  1. Financial Issues + Marriage, and 2. Groom Responsibilities . . . good reads for both males and females in the wedding  zone.


    School loans. They’re a pain. My guy and I both have them. We also have our own credit cards and other financial woes that we brought into this relationship.  I’ve been thinking about these issues a lot lately.  Are we supposed to open a joint account when we’re married? Am I supposed to pay for his Nike shoe obsession and is he supposed to front the money for my happy hour dates with the girls? What a mess . . .

    According to the experts over at ManRegistry, “statistics say that finances are the number one topic that married couples argue about . . . money is always a very touchy subject, especially if you don’t have a lot of it.  This is generally the case for newlyweds who are just starting out.”

    In an interview session with It’s A Jamie Thing, MR suggested sitting down with your honey and discussing some of these tough financial topics before you say “I do”, in order to avoid problems in the future.  Below, are a few major issues couples face and the MR guys’ recommendations for each one.

    Should we combine our finances after getting married? 

    Not every couple combines their finances after getting married, but our answer to this question is yes. First, determine who the money manager is going to be in the family or if you’re going to split that duty. From there, we recommend creating joint checking and savings accounts and keeping personal checking accounts for each of you. By doing it this way, you can split common bills and still have “mad money” to spend on your own things.

    It takes every couple awhile to get used to the “my money is your money mindset” that comes along with marriage, but if you can stay organized – it won’t be a difficult transition.

    How much should we be saving from our paychecks? 

     If you haven’t noticed, our economy hasn’t been the most stable over the past year. The recovery has been nice, but we all have learned just how important saving for rough times can be. Depending on incomes, 30% is a great amount of net income to put away in savings/investments each month. Obviously, every couple isn’t going to be able to put aside that amount, but you’re doing yourself a huge favor even if you can only do 10% each month.

    We both are bringing debt into the marriage, how should it be tackled? 

     Don’t freak out if you’re bringing debt into marriage. More couples do than don’t and there are ways you can tackle the debt together. The first and most important step is to be upfront and honest with each other about how much debt you each have. We recommend creating a chart of spending habits (it’s lame, but it works). This chart will help you both identify places you can cut back each month. If it’s an option, we highly recommend speaking to a financial planning professional. A financial planner can look at your debt and interest rates and help you plan where to begin paying down.

    What should we do with all that cash we get as wedding gifts? 

    Who doesn’t love cash? You’ll definitely be seeing green after the wedding as cash remains the most common wedding gift that couples receive. There’s nothing wrong with splurging a little with the new found greenbacks, but this might also be a great time to create that joint savings account we talked about earlier. The wedding cash would be a great first deposit. Depending on how much you get, you could always pocket a few hundred for honeymoon drinks and save the rest!

    Okay great information but now the question is how do you get your man to talk about these issues {it’s not always easy, is it ladies?}.  Well not to worry, these guys have a pretty simple answer to that too!


    Yes, {Financial} Football . . . the way to every man’s heart (well, mine anyways:) ). MR suggests for grooms to think of their “marital finances in football terms”. Check out their post to see how they suggest you “play the game”!

    What a refreshing take on this whole financial dilemma that no married couple can escape.  I really feel better reading their articles and more prepared having expert advice to take into the conversation. So ladies, send your grooms on over to The ManRegistry . . . it’s okay if you want to take a peek too, you know I did  {pretty sure I’ll be a return visitor too} :).



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