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the rehearsal dinner invites

The invitations never end it seems.

But, I didn’t struggle with my rehearsal dinner invitations the way I seemed to have with everything else. These were much quicker. Aside from the glittering process anyway. Which I have to admit I secretly loved. Who doesn’t like a little extra glitter on the surface? 🙂 

Materials for these babies consisted of:

orange cardstock

red envelopes

a free Fiesta font from dafont.com

a white Gelly Roll pen



my Adobe Photoshop program and home printer

oh yeah, and stamps. Never enough stamps.


{the glitter was much brighter + way prettier in person}

The main piece went out to all the invitees and for the the wedding party, I included a small insert with the actual rehearsal information. Attached with a very kitschy paper clip – not shown.

Still needing to brush up on your rehearsal dinner etiquette?

Here are a few tips from the Chicago Wedding Blog:

When Is It

The rehearsal dinner usually occurs right after the rehearsal, which is almost always the afternoon or evening before the wedding.

Who Hosts

The groom’s parents traditionally host and pay for the rehearsal dinner.  Nowadays, however, planning and hosting weddings – and all the events surrounding them – is often a group effort.  During your initial wedding budget talks with all contributing parties – you’ll need to discuss and determine plans for hosting the rehearsal dinner.

Who’s Invited

The guest list typically includes the wedding party, immediate family, and the officiant.  Some couples choose to invite out-of-town guests as well, but if you have a far flung guest list, inviting them all may be impractical.

Where Is It

For convenience reasons, the rehearsal dinner should take place close to the wedding location; however, the choice of venue type is pretty open.  Restaurants are always a popular option, yet more and more couples are starting to get just as creative with their rehearsal dinner venues as they are their wedding venues.  Mansions, museums, parks, gardens, backyards – you name it – it can host a rehearsal dinner.

What Happens

Rehearsal dinners are well-suited for toasting (and roasting), since speakers may feel more comfortable in a more intimate environment.  As the traditional host, the father of the groom usually speaks to welcome guests.  The best man, maid of honor, bridesmaids, or really anyone else may offer a toast.  The bride and groom can also use this opportunity to distribute their attendant gifts and thank their families and guests.

Ideas and Trends

More and more couples are opting for casual rehearsal dinners, especially when the wedding is particularly elegant.  Brides and grooms who want to relax and enjoy themselves before the main event find an unbuttoned affair particularly enticing, causing clambakes, crawfish boils and barbeques to become popular.  Other couples are centering the dinner around a fun activity such as a boat cruise, wine tasting, casino night, mini golf – even bowling.

More Resources:

fiesta DIY rehearsal dinner invitations

rehearsal dinners by color and theme

dressing for the rehearsal dinner

And some more fiesta inspiration, for me 🙂

from Junebug Weddings

stylish mexican inspired real wedding rehearsal dinner, images by Beaux Arts Photographie

{love the flowers for your hair}





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Victory #15: Invitations

Invitations have been on my mind FOREVER. Well, since 2008 anyway. Like that annoying itch in the middle of your back, they just never go away.

I know I sound as if I’m talking about my invitations with contempt, and I don’t mean too, but they’ve been a major source of stress and plain old frustration for me during the planning process.

When I first started looking at invitations, my mind began to swirl around all the cool possibilities.  All the colors. Fonts. Designs. Wording. Fun stuff, right?

Yeah, sure. Until you look at the prices.

These are just paper and ink right? You’d think they were made from fine china or slowly etched into glass by the monetary value placed on these puppies. Hol-yy cow. 

I just couldn’t understand paying so much for something that wasn’t even going to be AT the wedding.  And not to mention the opinion (not fact. not even a little bit) that “invitations are your guests’ first impression of your wedding so you better make it a good one” was getting old.  

I struggled with this for a while, but it is now safe to say I am in the clear (until I have to break out the nagging for those straggling RSVPs ;).  I was actually in the clear back in March-ish but by that time I was over those pretty little pieces of paper and quite frankly just needed a break from them. 

Anyway, after finally making the decision to design the invites myself and playing around with colors, wording and layouts, we sent our invites to the printer! There were a total of three pieces (two were front and back), an RSVP envelope and a fun little outline of stuff to do in Yakima (these I just printed at home).  I have to say, I was very pleased at how they turned out, too! 

Now, am I happy I made such a big deal about paper weight, font selection or color exactness? No, I’m not. Am I happy with the turnout? Yes. 

I finally realized, through this torementing-of-the-mind process, that even though I hated them and wasn’t able to see the value in effort to make them perfect, that I am a memory keeper. These invitations, they will be at my wedding, used as an indiscrete piece of decoration. Somewhere. Hoping to make it into a photograph and eventually, into an album. I’ll keep a copy of them forever, and I want to be proud years down the road. Yes, it’s just paper. But, it’s my paper.

For the addressing, I did no pretty loops or swirls, though I would’ve liked to. In a perfect world.  I simply printed them on clear labels, made them casual and ignored the “traditional etiquette” recommendations. Our wedding just isn’t that way. Who’s going to notice anyway?


all do you need for the RSVP card.

this may be helpful to.


This is the back of our RSVP, the writing is located in the bottom left of corner of the card.

I’m finding that a lot of people want to write us a note, especially those that can’t make it to the big day. Quite a few don’t realize there is a back to the RSVP but enough are and getting to read their well wishes and excitement for the big is so much fun. Totally worth it :).

 My finalized handmade map – way different from earlier versions.

This took a lot of pencil, a ton of erasing and thanking god that I had a scanner.

(and don’t show up at my parents’ house)


 This one was my favorite. We just printed it on our home printer and the colors turned out surprisingly well.

I’m a huge advocate for Yakima and have fallen in love with the city’s new identity. I really want our Seattle people to see this place can be more than their expectations may limit them to. I even sent to a few Yakima people, hoping they’d get a kick out of it and maybe even try a few of the places.

I’m happy to pass along the PDF to those interested.

my embossing kit. I love it. and I love my pretty orange envelopes.

final version

twine = pinthea

 and they’re off!

note: Washington doesn’t hand cancel.


printing your own invitations

Yakima printing services

getting them designed

local designers

coolest craft website ever –  Etsy

colored envelopes – any size

Envelope Mall – I went with Orange Fizz

p.s. you can order a sample

embossing materials


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the RSVP card

I’m currently working on creating my invitation pieces.

Who knew there were so many ways to word the RSVP?

Pretty cute though – I’ll admit.


a Homegrown Wedding

the formal way

The favor of a reply is requested
by June 16, 2006.
____Accepts with pleasure
____Declines with regrets



Will ______ Attend

a few casual ways

We look forward to
celebrating with you.
Please reply by June 16, 2006
____ accepts _____ regrets

– – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – –

We have reserved two seats in your honor.
{ } Accept with pleasure
{ } Decline with regret
Please respond by June 16, 2006 

and can’t forget the crazy ways evite

  • Who’s Toasting: I’ll drink to that, My glass is empty
  • Ante Up: All in, Bust
  • Come Strong or Not at All: I’m Coming in Hot, I’m Weak
  • Who’s Rolling?: I’m In, Collect $100 and Pass Go, Stuck in Jail, Lose a Turn
  • Are You There? Roger That, Over and Out
  • Are You Coming or What?: Totally, Bummer
  • Who’s In?: On Board, On the Way Out
  • What’s the Verdict?: Committed, Jumped Bail
  • Got Game?: Bring it On, Sore Loser
  • Joining the Cast?: Ready for My Close-Up, I’ll Never Work in this Town Again
  • Who’s Connected?: Site Found, Error 404
  • Who’s Rallying?: Full Throttle, Out of Gas
  • To Be or Not to Be?: To Be, Or Not To Be
  • Who’s a Shredder?: Black Diamond, Green Circle
  • Don’t like any of the above? Here’s more

    Other things you may wish to include in the response card

    {courtesy of About.com}

    • You may have guests who will neglect to write in their names, or who write illegibly. Solve this problem by numbering your guest list, then inconspicuously writing the corresponding number on the back of each response card. Trust me, you’ll thank me for it later.
    • Even if you are doing a “fill-in-the-blank” style response card, you still may wish to leave some blank area for guests to write personal notes. The notes you’ll receive will likely be a mix of simple, humorous, and poignant, but above all, unforgettable.
    • In order to get an exact number of attendees, you may wish to include this line “____ number attending”.
    • Some guests will assume that their guests/dates/friends are of course invited, regardless of to whom you address the card. You can avoid these assumptions by writing “___ of ___ guest(s) will attend”, and then pre-filling in the second blank with the number of people that you are inviting. Some may find this slightly distasteful, but it certainly does get the point across!
    • Include an easy way for guests to reply by pre-addressing and stamping a return envelope. You may also wish to include a phone number, or email address. Just make sure that email isn’t the only way to reply.
    • Particularly if you are inviting a large number of families with children, you may wish to include separate lines reading:
      Number Attending Ceremony _______
      Number Attending Reception ______
    • When I am invited to a wedding without a guest, I hate having to reply on a card grammatically written for a couple. (e.g. M__________ accept with pleasure). If this bothers you as well, be sure to include the single and plural forms, or write the response card so that it is universally appropriate.

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    8 GB Invite

    Yeah, I totally thought my Save-the-Dates were cool.  Until I saw this invitation, by way of Offbeat Bride.

    Darina and Niko – bride and groom to-be – unveiled their 8-bit video game wedding invitations {designed themselves} on the O.B. blog yesterday.

    Darina explains:

    “We knew that we didn’t want standard paper invites. We wanted something for people to keep and remember. We are geeks. We love video games. Why not have a video game invite?”

    The video game has two choices – you can play as either the bride, or the groom.  You have to beat the game (all two levels) in order to get the wedding information. 

    Here’s the game, played as Niko:

    The invitations/games are packaged in jewel cases with info packets.  The CD also contains:

    “…an original soundtrack and outtakes (it took me two hours to get the “I’m sorry Niko…” line straight). It also promotes our awesome singing skills, by singing not only the wrong tune, but also the wrong words of the Soviet hymn.”

    The packaging, below:

    For those of you who are interested, here’s where you can download and play the invitations! You can download it with Windows, or, using Wine, with Linux and Mac.

    Wow – guess there’s a whole new game brides and grooms are playing these days {literally and figuratively}!

    But, I have to say, I do love the mix of 1985 Mario/King Kong – ahh the good old days :).

    I’m a fan.

    Game on,



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    wedding invitations {again} – RSVP

    We all know the struggles I’ve been having with my invitations, but it’s time to seriously start thinking about these little guys again – ugh, and I already feel a headache coming on.

    Anyway, I came across this helpful resource on response card etiquette from Wedding*Paper Divas.  This is probably the most important part of the invitation for the brides and will help save you from insanity/headaches/stress (e.g., you need those numbers).  Because of this,  you need to make sure you’re including everything that needs to be included on these.  Read on if you’re in the same boat I am!


    Wedding invitations are cards or letters asking the recipient to attend a wedding and/or wedding reception. They are typically mailed out with response cards approximately six weeks before the wedding date. You can personalize your response cards with a handwritten note or print them with customized wording. When following proper response card etiquette, the recipient mails back the response card two weeks before the wedding or by the date indicated. For detailed information regarding response card etiquette and the correct format for an RSVP card, samples of response cards and more are featured below to help you gain a thorough understanding of response card etiquette.

    Response Cards

    Response cards are enclosed with the invitation to determine the number of people who will be attending your wedding. They are the smallest card size accepted by the postal service and should be printed in the same style as the invitation. An invitation to only the wedding ceremony does not usually include a request for a reply. However, response cards should be used when it is necessary to have an exact head count for special seating arrangements. Response cards are widely accepted today. If included, these cards should be easy for your guests to understand and use. Include a self-addressed and stamped return envelope to make it easy for your guests to return the response cards.

    Things To Consider: You should not include a line that reads “number of persons” on your response cards because only those whose names appear on the inner and outer envelopes are invited. Each couple, each single person, and all children over the age of 16 should receive their own invitation. Indicate on the inner envelope if they may bring an escort or guest. The omitting of children’s names from the inner envelope infers that the children are not invited. Samples of wording for response cards:

    (The M may be eliminated from the line, especially if many Drs. are invited)
    ___ accepts
    ___ regrets
    Saturday the fifth of July
    Oceanside Country Club
    The favor of your reply is requested
    by the twenty-second of May
    will ________ attend


    If the guest list for the ceremony is larger than that for the reception, a separate card with the date, time and location for the reception should be enclosed with the ceremony invitation for those guests also invited to the reception. Reception cards should be placed in front of the invitation, facing the back flap and the person inserting them. They should be printed on the same quality paper and in the same style as the invitation itself.

    Sample of a formally worded reception card:

    Mr. and Mrs. Alexander Waterman Smith
    request the pleasure of your company
    Saturday, the third of July
    at three o’clock
    Oceanside Country Club
    2020 Waterview Lane
    Oceanside, California

    Sample of a less formal reception card:

    Reception immediately following the ceremony
    Oceanside Country Club
    2020 Waterview Lane
    Oceanside, California

    Things To Consider: You may also include a reception card in all your invitations if the reception is to be held at a different site than the ceremony.

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    a different way to invite

    Not quite my style, but it is a pretty cute invite style

    via Blue Orchid Design

    unique wedding invitation

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    DIY Fonts

    Found these nifty little sites for you fellow DIY’ers

    Have you ever wanted to make your handwriting into a font? There are a number of sites online that allow you to upload smpales of your handwriting and they’ll turn into a True Type font for a fee. The cool thing is you can create your own dingbats, too!

    Fontifier $9.00

    HandFont $249.00

    YourFonts $9.95

    FontCapture {FREE}

    FontsForPeas {FREE}



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